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Toupee or Not Toupee

14-Oct-02 -- My law school friend who I will call Yolanda invited me over to her house to have dinner for one of the Jewish holidays.  I brought my daughter with me as I want her to be exposed to different cultures.  I had gone to seders before with my ex-lover's family, but this was still very special to me.  The food was fantastic.  Her mother is a wonderful cook and they spoiled my daughter with all kinds of neat things around the house for her to discover, such as puzzles, books and knick knacks.

So I'm sitting at the dining room table with this lovely family and a few of their friends stop by later in the evening for coffee and desert I believe.  The friends are an engaged couple, the female counterpart of which is a close friend of my friend Yolanda.  As a gay man I am inclined to perceive men very carefully.  While I was convinced this guy was straight and as usual I assessed him for his body hair, which was plentiful to my eyes' delight, there was something interesting about his appearance.  He was obviously handsome and motivated and sounded successful at his young age, if not conceited, but the important thing was that he seemed very fond of his fiancée. 

After the couple left, my friend Yolanda was going to drive me back home and I asked her if she had noticed the obvious toupee.  Floored, she picked her jaw up off the floor and ran up to ask her mother if SHE had noticed it.  I didn't understand what the big deal was, but then I found out that this friend of Yolanda's was probably not aware of her own fiancé's hairline.  First thing the next day Yolanda called her, so as not to arouse his suspicion and her friend was incredulous.  She did not even notice whether the hair was his or ever touched his scalp the entire time together. 

Naturally I had assumed that when they were intimate, she had to have become aware of it, but then I found out that Yolanda's friend was a virgin and was intending to remain such until she married.  This was not to say that she did not have ever have intimate moments with her fiancé, but time would tell if he was going to spill his guts before they got married.  For weeks and then perhaps months Yolanda's friend kept toying with his face while he would pull away.  She then realized that he had a piece on.  It would not be until much later that he was actually concealing his true hair line from his fiancée.

I don't think it was the fact that he wore a toupee, but that he hid the truth about his hairline that bothered her the most, but she was not going to let something as superficial as that affect her judgment of his, thank goodness.  Personally I think bald men are hot, especially if they have facial hair, but to each his own.

All every woman needs is a good gay friend to tell her like it is!