I found out one of my good friends (and fellow Yorkie owner) from NYC Michael DeMarsico died a few days ago at the age of 44. I know everyone says only good things about those who have died, but he was truly pure to the core and must have had perfect karma, despite the tragic nature of the disease that took him at such a young age. He was a prolific writer and loyal friend and was survived by his husband and his dog Chloe. I cherish the long emails we had together over the past two decades and the countless coffees and social events I shared with him. I’m so glad I saw him on my last trip to NYC in 2014 (one of the pictures with Chloe is below) when he was already struggling with some of the symptoms of MSA, but he was STILL making jokes about it as he lost motor function. Every time I started to feel the tiniest bit sorry for myself when I had limited mobility this past four months I thought of people like him and so many others suffering, like the children of Syria and the refugees all over the world whose problems dwarfed my inability to walk without crutches. Now that I’m healing and I know I’ll make a full recovery, I hope to return to NYC for the celebration of his life in a month or so. I could only hope to be as genteel and brave as Mike was facing a painful and slow death head on. I’m sure he will be immortalized by his writing. It was at his behest that he not have a funeral but rather a party for his friends, which only demonstrates that he was a total class act. Rest in Peace sweet man.
Dashcam proves that i was NOT stopped on the freeway (not that that matters) as other driver originally claimed. Indeed, the driver of the grey 2011 Hyundai sedan that folded up when it rear-ended me told the police officer that he was distracted by “spitting” out the window, while he was was changing lanes between the car behind me and my car and probably going at an excessive speed. I ended up several HUNDRED feet in front of his car as I was pushed forward and my car came to an automatic stop. Below is a picture of the car that hit me. The police officers assured me I was completely faultless. Below are pictures of my car which hopefully will not be totaled. I feel like having my seatbelt on and being in a big safe car definitely helped me to be no worse for wear after being rammed at high velocity. I do recall seeing the Hyundai almost vertical in my rear view mirror as it slammed into the back of my car. Supposedly the other driver had bought his car a week ago.
The crash happens at about 4:30 into the clip.
As per the video the crash happened in lane 2 (one over from the speed lane). My car becoming immediately inoperable (as I’m sure theirs was) had to be pushed while in park (I could not start it or change gears) by the police vehicle once the entire freeway in my direction was forced to come to a complete stop. The officer had me steer the car, which was a weird sensation.
I was alone in my vehicle when I was smashed into, but as you can see in one of these pictures below, both the front head rests were forced out from the impact. I’m very lucky that there were no cars immediately in front of me and somehow the car behind the jerk who struck my car was able to make a complete stop before impacting his car — probably because he wasn’t distracted by a mobile phone or spitting out the window or showing off for his friend or what have you.
One of our favorite dog parks is Oyster Bay in San Leandro, where these pussy willows got our attention, especially the ones with the purple hue. Tucker has become inseparable from me and pretty much has claimed his place flanking me, particularly in our couch spot. Some great pictures of handsome Shando and one of Monte finding it cooler (September is our warmest month) on the ground under the other dogs is also included.
This site is password-protected until such time as Michael and Chris say they want some or all of the content allowed for public consumption.
Celebrated the union of Michael and Chris (with their dog Brillo) in Dublin, California. They are a very handsome and special couple, and we met a lot of wonderful people at their reception (they actually got married last December 24). The day of their reception was also very special to me because it would have been my parents’ 50th wedding anniversary!