Custody
Battle Suggestions
Don’t lie. Don’t exaggerate. If you lose
credibility, nothing you say will be believable.
- Keep a copy of everything, including things you are confident your attorney has.
- Make sure your attorney gives you every piece of correspondence.
- Don’t bad-mouth your spouse in your children’s presence, even if you use false
names.
- Pay your attorney on time, or at least warn him/her if you need more time to spread out
the payments.
- Be careful who you ask to be your
witness(es). Do not put people who were friends
to both your ex-spouse and you in the middle if they don’t want to be.
- Do as much legal and non-legal research as you can on the Internet for yourself, but
don’t bombard your attorney with frivolous information, particularly if it is from
other jurisdictions.
- If you have an argument over home videos and who has possession of family pictures,
SCAN IN the pictures and keep the ones that are less important to you only on the
computer. Burn them into a CD to make sure they are permanently affixed. Make
a copy of home videos for each other as well.
- Try to live close enough to your children and ex-spouse as possible without running
into them at all times in the neighborhood.
- Use technology, including beepers, cell phones, email, fax and conference calls to
stay in close contact with your kids when you have to be separated.
- Do things with your ex-spouse and the kids, like birthday parties and graduations.
- If you smoke, do not smoke around kids, not even in your
own house. Not only do you risk your health, but you risk starting a fire in the
home and smelling up your house and your kids, while exposing them to toxins, which could
be used against you in court.
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