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In Memoriam, Anthony Perri

Tony was one of my very best friends since the mid 1990’s. We were neighbors in Brooklyn. At times we were even housemates in New York, and for the last several years of his life here in California. He worked as a chemistry professor in his later years, but had been a big-time activist and grant writer for many years between his getting a Master’s Degree in Chemistry and almost finishing his Ph.D. I’ve heard from his students that he was a beloved and effective teacher, and I know he got a lot out of spreading knowledge.

We often traveled together, including the only time he ever traveled to Europe. We went to Spain, France and Italy, including a trip to visit my family there, with my daughter and me.

Even though he never drove, we also took road trips in California. He and I enjoyed traveling down to explore southern California together a number of times.

It was terrible to lose a friend at 53, but Tony was obstinate and chose his own paths. I miss him terribly, but I have solace that he is out of pain, as cliche as that is. Here are some of my fonder memories of the many years we knew each other.

Shando, Joe, Tony and Alexandra Hayden at Tony’s 50th birthday dinner in Oakland – August 24, 2016

Dog Licking Circle

A very quiet pre-xmas moment of relaxation with a bunch of dogs we were dog-sitting and our own dogs. The elder and small dogs were mostly chilling in the pen while the others with high energy ran around and lounged in various parts of the house.

Cappy and Jonah had a special bond and played together a lot.