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Mass Shooting at 345 Park Avenue

Sometimes I think I’m the luckiest man in the world when it comes to catastrophes I avoided, and sometimes things like the fire that happened to me that killed five of my dogs, nine days after a ten-year breakup, really put me in my place. I have told many people that I was interviewed for a job on the 76th floor of the South Tower in 2001, FIVE weeks before 9/11. I have the photo ID from entering the building and blogged about the whole thing. I’m so grateful I did NOT get that job.

I also survived a bomb threat at one of the major law firms in downtown San Francisco on the 29th floor around 2009, as a litigant came in with a flashing belt yards away from my office.

So it gave me a bit of a chill when I heard the address of this recent midtown Manhattan mass shooting that happened. 345 Park Avenue was my in-person office for years, and it was literally my first job ever in Manhattan when I moved there in the Summer of 1988 (then aged 20). For 19 years, I continued to work in and eventually moved to Manhattan. I know I’m far removed from the situation now, but it still gives me a bit of a chill. The corner of that SAME building is also known for being where Marilyn Monroe did her white dress twirl over the subway grades. Small world, eh?

ACLU Lobbying with Assemblymember Wilson

After a lovely lunch in downtown Suisun, a group of us from the Norcal ACLU Chapter had the privilege of meeting with State Assemblymember Lori Wilson to discuss pending legislation in Sacramento, including measures such as the problem with masked and unidentified “officers” and preventing assistance to the unhoused from being criminalized, which some municipalities have attempted to do. Assemblymember Wilson and her staff were terrific, as always. This was my third time meeting with her in the last few years. The other two times for me were with the American Heart Association on tobacco industry legislation. I love melding minds with such dedicated activists. From left to right are Kaila, me, Assemblymember Wilson, Tanisha, Cliff, and Kimberlee in the group photo.

These pictures include the decor in the waiting room and pictures Shea took of me. I didn’t dress up too fancily, but it was worth seeing what I looked like. I ditched the blazer because it was 100 degrees in Suisun that day. I look drunk in one of the pictures, but you get the idea..

Tobacco Free Solano at Vallejo Health Fair

I stopped by the Vallejo JFK Library’s Joseph Room, where they were hosting a Health Fair. I tabled a bit with Tobacco Free Solano (see my T-shirt), who I’ve volunteered with as a Co-Chair for several years.

The video below is a little video panorama of the Health Fair that the Vallejo JFK Library was hosting in the Joseph Room earlier this week. I made to that Tobacco Free Solano was in attendance since it was only a tiny blurb in the Vallejo Weekly. This was early on as it was getting set up, but a very cool idea and networking opportunity for local agencies and other non-profits.

Lazybear Nightlife

Nightlife this week at Lazybear in Guerneville.

We’re not kidding when we say we have “box office seats” from the patio of the room we rent at the resort when it comes to events that take place during Lazybear. Here is Shea comfortably in our unit while John Waters’ 1988 Hairspray begins.

Tobacco Control at Lazybear 2025

I would give them a D+. I’m very impressed they did NOT have the cigar event on the schedule this year. Whether it took place unofficially I did not hear.

There was some signage that the resorts and bar used, but I still had to approach at least a dozen people over the week with blatant disregard for the explicit signs that they were sometimes smoking immediately under. Most apologized to me, which I was not expecting.

Here is the pool at the West Sonoma Inn. Three VERY temporary signs (yellow) were there to tell people to only smoke in designated areas, but there were guys smoking on the edge of the pool all week. Some of them told me that they were told that smoking in the FIELDS was okay, so I had to point them to the one designated area, which is under redwood trees and on the premises. I do not believe this location is appropriate, but an accommodation, much like the one at the Triple R in the parking lot. Here is that “designated” area at West Sonoma Inn:

At the bonfires it was EVERYWHERE and while some of the guys tried to stay off the most crowded areas off the sides, but these assholes were smoking combustible commercial cigarettes at Ground Zero. Unbelievable. I guess next year I need to take far more footage and pictures to document better, but I was TRYING to enjoy my vacation.

The Woods, which had the most explicit signs that said “this entire property is smokefree,” had people smoking AT the pool right under the signs (until I confronted them), some of them went off to secret area between fences until I confronted them. One of them told me “it’s just a vape.” What is this? 2017? People actually staying at the resort were also observed by me (Room 4) to be smoking openly right in front of their doors. I guess it was repugnant for them to smoke in their own rooms against policy, but they wanted to share their passive smoke with every passerby.

Many of my friends were unfortunately some of these vapers. I told them the rules generally, but I did not want to be the constant bringer of bad news either.

One of the ironies is that a former heavy smoker friend of mine who now smokes a vape with zero milligrams of tobacco, miraculously, was at this booth. Notice that it raises money for Sonoma Health? Raising money for (gay men’s) health is, after all, the origin of the non-profit Lazy Bear Fund. I also feel that it should not be the responsibility of volunteers and board members to enforce the law in a town that obviously violates it 365 days a year. The onus should be on the resort and bar owners.

I did ask my friends who volunteered and I was assured that they had a STERN lecture to have people only smoke in designated areas, but no one was deputized to actually ask. I was in a long line to get into the Woods and I heard my volunteer friend ask everyone to not bring any glass into the pool area. I asked if he was reminding people that there is no smoking on the property at all and he sort of dismissed me that there were signs. I asked if they were reminding people to respect the signs and another friend of mine in line behind me said he would “rather breathe second hand smoke than step on glass in the pool.”

“Well guess what?” I said, “We can have both!”

Bear-B-Q at Lazybear 2025

Bear-b-q at our friends’ campground after a long day of sun and fun floating down Russian River! Next year we might have the dogs come with us since lots of other people had their dogs in kayaks as I’ve done in Vallejo’s Lake Chabot (there’s another Lake Chabot in Castro Valley where I also used to live). Bonnie and Snoopy were very popular and well-behaved at the BBQ, getting lots of love and snacks off the grill.