It was wonderful seeing my siblings today, but it was for a somber reason. We finally fulfilled the last wish of my mother to have some of her ashes spread near where my father’s ashes were spread. She died just over ten years ago, and within a year or so, with my daughter, I spread ashes in Italy on the beach near the base where she met my father. This was a final chapter, but my siblings and I are each keeping some of her ashes with each of us, too. We decided it would be a trip with just us three and not our partners or even our busy kids (we each have one). We did not film the actual act, but my siblings loved seeing a corner of the California coast they were not familiar with (Bolinas), and it is even closer to the coordinates where my father’s ashes were spread by the Neptune Society.
Category Archives: Family
Hayden Siblings Visiting
Nephew Nicholas Graduates from High School
Visiting Sister in Granite Bay
Sabina and her dogs Rikki and Phil in Granite Bay front yard with Sabina’s husband, Ken.
AI-enhanced pictures of Mom
AI Magic with Grandmother
More AI “magic” brings me to the verge of tears. This enhanced photo with AI is my biological grandmother and me, taken in April 1969 in Salinas, California. I believe I only met her that one time. There are no other pictures of her and me together, not even from that day. It was only a few years ago, while looking through my late uncle’s photos, that I found this unenhanced photo of us. She died from smoking at age 50, so she never got to meet either of my siblings. I enhanced the photo and wondered what she and I would do if a movie were made out of it. Unlike the photo of my dad and me, she KISSES me! I’m actually glad my dad did NOT kiss me at such close proximity in that one photo, as that would be weird. I was 17 when my dad admitted, after a verbal slip-up, that the grandmother I knew was a step-grandmother and that this woman in this photo existed. Tobacco robbed me of a life of knowing her, just as tobacco robbed my daughter of a life with my father (her grandfather). At least I can cherish a kiss from her now.
For Mom’s 83rd Birthday
My mother died when she was only 73. Today would have been her 83rd birthday. I can’t believe ovarian cancer took her so quickly in 2016. FUCK CANCER. Through the magic of artificial intelligence, last night I was playing around with her pictures. I consider myself the family archivist, having digitized all photos from multiple generations long before my house fire, of course. My sister said this is her favorite picture of my parents, taken a few months before my dad died in 1990. He also died young, predeceasing one of his parents, as my mom did.
Well, I almost fell on the floor when I heard my mother audibly LAUGH in the AI-generated video of her on that swing:
AI Fixed my Dad’s School Picture
My whole life I’ve seen this school picture of my dad, but it went through the laundry many years ago. I even asked graphic designer friends to try to fix it, but it didn’t work. Now with Artificial Intelligence, I want to cry because I’m seeing it as it was intended to be for the first time. And then I colorized it! I’m almost in tears as he’s been dead for 35 years and this photo was taken in the 1940s.
Dad Would Have Been 86 Today
Today, my dad would have been 86. His birthday sometimes falls on Thanksgiving. He died at 50 due to tobacco-related illness, which decreased his quality of life for years before death, and certainly his health. Statistically, I keep telling everyone he could have still been alive and well at this age, but for Camel’s cigarettes that he was handed as a kid for free outside of a package while growing up in Oahu. The addiction was encouraged in society, and certainly when he himself joined the military. After his quintuple bypass at age 48, it only took him one month to beg my mom to buy him cigarettes that he was too weak to go to the store to purchase for himself. She later told me that she regretfully acquiesced because he was incessant. In my tobacco activism, I really grit my teeth when tobacco retailers (poison-pushing peddlers) complain that if we limit the amount of addictive product that they sell to their community, we are “hurting their retirement.” WHAT ABOUT MY DAD’S RETIREMENT? Do you think dying at 50 is what he planned for, and his mother before him, who died at the same age from her own smoking? I’m not talking about people who died in the 19th century here. This is in the latter half of the 20th century! To say nothing of my cousin Ivan Benenati, who died THIS millennium from osteosarcoma from his smoking when he was only 35!!! EIGHT MILLION people die from tobacco-related illness every year. It is THE MOST PREVENTABLE cause of death, and yet it’s still okay to have product placement in nearly every movie, no matter what the mise-en-scene — EVEN SCIENCE FICTION! How does this continue to be normalized!?!



























